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How to Teaching Kid Motivation

2008-07-18T16:22:00.000-07:00

I list some word to give child motivation. Here are seven of these common phrases, and alternatives to get your message across in a better way.

1. What you say: "You're the best!"
What they hear: "Your job in life is to make me happy."
A better way to say it: "You should be proud of how hard you worked."

For years, we've been told that boosting a child's self-esteem is important to his or her success in life.

But child experts are now learning that too much praise can backfire. Praise-aholic tykes who expect it at every turn may become teens who seek the same kind of approval from their friends when offered a joint or asked if they want to go in the backseat of the car. The implication of saying "You're the prettiest girl in class," or talking about the goals she scored but not her overall effort, is that you love her only when she looks the best, scores the highest, achieves the most. And this carries over to the classroom.

Social psychologist Carol Dweck, PhD, tested the effects of overpraise on 400 fifth graders while she was at Columbia University. She found that kids praised for "trying hard" did better on tests and were more likely to take on difficult assignments than those lauded for being "smart."

"Praising attributes or abilities makes a false promise that success will come to you because you have that trait, and it devalues effort, so children are afraid to take on challenges," says Dweck, now at Stanford University. "They figure they'd better quit while they're ahead."

2. What you say: "Watch your language!"
What they hear: "I've tuned out what you're really trying to say."
A better way to say it: "I'm so glad you came to talk to me, but I have one request for the future. I find that word offensive, so please don't use it."

You probably want to keep George Carlin's "Seven Words You Can Never Say on Television" out of the house, even though you do hear them on TV these days. But Panaccione advises a more lenient policy toward contemporary jargon like "This sucks" when it comes up during the course of a conversation. This is the way modern kids talk; they aren't trying to be disrespectful. When parents shift the focus to the words themselves, the point of the talk may be lost forever, and the kid shuts down. "This is the last thing you want," Panaccione says. "Parents are lucky if kids are actually talking to them." Just remember the time for talking about offensive language is at the end of the real discussion.

How to Teach a Child to Eat

2008-07-18T16:01:00.000-07:00

Now we will learn how to teach child to feed.

Feeding a child is a form of communication between the child and its parents which is important for its development. If this is interfered with and if that which is said, or communicated in other ways, is faulty, e.g., that the child is hungry, cold or tired, when this not the case, the child is prevented from learning how to manage its eating. Even using the wrong word for a child's role in the family and its frame of mind can cause confusion. For example, the child is often not allowed to feel sad as that is taken by the parents as an insult to their own excellence. In this way the child loses confidence in its own feelings and experiences.

Most parents do not realize that it may take multiple exposures to a food before a child might actually put it in his mouth, chew it and swallow it. Some children may need 15 to 20 exposures to a new food before they eat it. According to the study mentioned earlier, more than 60 percent of parents give up after three to five times of serving a new food to baby.

It is important to understand that babies, especially if they have been bottle-fed, must become familiar with new flavors before they'll readily accept them. A mother's breast milk often contains flavors of the food she has consumed, but bottle-fed babies have a whole new arena of tastes they must become accustomed to.

Talk about the role of food

Teach your children about the working of the human body. Explain the role of food in sustaining it. You will, of course, have to adapt your explanations to the ages of your children. For instance, you may tell younger children that eating too many chocolates can give them a stomach ache, reminding them about how disagreeable such a scenario would be.

In the case of older children, you may talk about the nutritional components of food, explaining how a balance of these is required for the body to function properly. This way they can learn that while ice cream is not bad, the body also requires the nutrition it gets from salads and other food items.

After all, the healthy habits they form now will last them a lifetime.

Teaching Kids to Poop in Right Way

2008-03-03T01:25:00.000-08:00

Many children have difficultly to poop in potty perfectly. In fact, many children not learn how to poop in right way. Parents usually make this thing conflict of interest with their child. In this posting, I list some problem and solution about teach your children to poop.

I can’t teach my kid to poop in potty training well

Many children can’t really perfectly learning how to poop well. But give new problem for your kid by angry is not solution....

I already teach them over and over

You must can differently teach with yelling, make kids feel terrible, and disgusting when they poop in their pants. Children under two years old can’t perfectly poop in right way. be patient and you will find the progress.

But kids must know that I don’t like when they poop in their pants.

Yes, of course. Something you must know, when you act panic you make kid feel that they can control your emotion. They already know you will panic, looks mad, and yelling when they poop in their pants. They can control your respond. Its also unnecessary things.

So what must I do to start make better

Try to start good communication and reward with praise. Tell to your kid ‘you sit in the potty training to poop’ over and over… Make same definition or I mean use some word to explain that’s job between you and your child. It will work it. Teach your kid to tell ‘I sit in my potty for poop’. When they tell it, give your child reward with praise. Give your child lollypop; make their feel happy to poop. So they can sure poop well is better than poop in their pants.

Do I need special potty training?

Yes, give your children they own potty training. I not recommended to teach kid poop use adult toilet. The flush can make your child worry. In kids imagination, flush sound like they will in to hole of toilet, they can afraid the toilet will eat them. Buy good sit potty training for kid, there’s many in market. You not recommended to give your child pampers anytime. Give them training pants. They will fell unlikely when they poop walk in their feed.

Make your child proud to poop

Give your kid praise, huge and kiss. It’s urgent to make them feel safety. Don’t look your angry and scary face to them even they late to tell to you that they already poop in their pants. Always praise them when they tell to you. Let them know that you will be there when they need you. Many parent losing their patient facing children poop in the pants, Its wrong. Make they feel safety communicating with you. Don’t look disappoint or unhappy when they try to tell to you.

Look the sign.

Every child has different way to give you sign when they want to poop. Knowing the sign from your child is good step to get the progress already. Many kids stop talking when they want to poop, another kids crying, or look weird when they want to empty their stomach. You are the person who must know what their sign. Do not make your child feel his bad when he poops by yelling, especially in front of another people.

Learn can more effective by example.

It is good idea to joining your kid in playgroup. Your kid learning process is different with other kids. But its more effective if they look what other kid do when they want to poop. But your attention is most needing than everything.

Thanks Mom for teach me poop by patient…

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About Mom and Child Blog

2008-03-02T19:49:00.000-08:00

I love to remember when I was kid. I remember how my parents love me. I thing I was the most lucky kid in the world.

From my childhood experience, I am writing post in this blog. I don’t know a lot about psychology or expert in child education. But I know I feel happy and I have best parent.

Mom and Child blog content is my opinion about how educating and loving children. Not only from my experience in this blog I write about any case usually happen when parent interacted with their child. Its lovely to share and discuss whit every body.

Everybody wants to feel happy and growth their child in happiness. I think this is the most urgent to discuss. I will talk to my parent when I can’t respond or answer some question. They the expert. I love to talk with them.

Finally, I build this blog to share with every body. It’s lovely to share. However, I open minded to discuss with you all to share love and care, for better future to every child in the world.

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